Over time, the things we use the most become dull. For example, we are prone to happiness. Who wants unhappiness? Do we invite unhappiness? No one does. We are predisposed to want happiness all the time. So we overuse our senses- physical and emotional in order to saturate ourselves with happiness. Eventually in order to make ourselves happier, we need more and more stimuli coming from within as well as outside. It’s overuse of our senses, internal as well as physical.
What happens with pain, misery and sadness? Nobody wants them. If at all they come our way, we ignore them as if ignoring them will make them go away!
Since we don’t use them, whatever little miseries may come our way becomes really highlighted. Happiness is made dull by overuse whereas sadness becomes extremely sharp through under use. It cuts us like a razor. The more we avoid it, the more every little bit of sadness or unhappiness drives us crazy.
“With expectations too, when we have greater expectations from our loved ones,it creates this dullness and sharpness phenomenon at an emotional level. It’s not that someone advocates or invites unhappiness, but if it comes our way, we cannot discard it. When our senses perceive sadness etc, we must bravely undergo the whole process and later be thankful to lord. Neither sadness nor happiness is going to last forever. No one can hold air in one’s fist. Neither you nor me. Its just momentary. It’s the same thing with this emotional roller-coaster. That is why it is good to pay attention within, to our inner salves, the divine pressure within our heart. Even if one does not believe in God, that’s all right too. The main focus is to interiorise in such a way that we set our mind on that fulcrum, making it balanced. Only in the balanced state we will be able to enjoy life.If we can start accepting things in life in such a way that don’t dull us or sharpen us. If sadness comes, we ought to get used to it, and never avoid it. Otherwise, even a little bit of inconvenience can become a big pain, and that is why the art of taking miseries as blessings are hard to acquire but once its done, one can reach heights unimaginable. It is therefore very difficult to take miseries as blessings until we understand the reason behind it.